Coming Into This New Season

 The last few months have taught me a lot.

I have really realized that when you are the person who always shows up with good energy, checks on everyone, helps when (& where) you can, and gives people the benefit of the doubt… people start expecting it and not appreciate it or the effort it took.

I have learned…

•  Some people give zero fucks about how you are really doing.
• Some people feel as though they are entitled to your time, your energy, and everything you have to offer.
•  Some people will assume the worst about you (believing other's narratives) and never apologize when they find out they were wrong.
•  Some people expect a hell of a lot of grace from you while giving you absolutely none in return.
•  Your sacrifices stop being appreciated (if they ever really were in the first place) and just become expected.
•  And some people will attempt to make you feel guilty for not carrying responsibilities that were never yours in the first place.

If you are like me, please stop pouring from a cup that is already bare bone dry.

Stop letting people use your kindness, your compassion, your gifts, your talents, your time, and your heart until there is nothing left for you. AND they are looking at you like why is there not more you could do?

I have learned the hard way that when you keep putting everyone else first, eventually you hit a brick wall. You get fucking exhausted. You start questioning everything about yourself. You feel like you are failing everyone, even though you have been carrying way more shit than you were ever meant to.

The crazy part? While you are over here worrying about everyone else, they are usually doing what is best for themselves without giving you a second thought.

So maybe it is time we do the same.

I am not becoming cold. I am just learning that protecting my peace is not selfish anymore. I deserve the same love, grace, and effort that I so freely give to everyone else.

If you have been feeling this too… be fucking free with me. 💕